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Soon after this they got married. It was a small cermon at the Registrars Office, with four of their friends and her sister. She had found a cheap wedding dress, got her hair done, and felt like a princess. It was a wonderful day, although not what she had dreamt of as a young girl, she knew that is was more important that they got married, than to have a big wedding with all her family there.

When her daughter was 9 months old, she found out that she was expecting again. This had not been in her plans at all, she was hoping she wasn't, but when the results came, she started getting used to the thought, and started looking forward to a new little baby. Her husband was working long hours, she was working evenings to make some extra money, and finally they had some money to start paying off their depts.

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They had a blast together, she loved the power she had over him, she loved the look on his face when she could schock him, with somethings that she thought was very natural between two people who were so close, and she loved the feelings of closeness with him, like there was nothing that could come between them.
Her family did not approve of him at first, even before they had met him, she had to set up meetings with them, so they could see for themselves what a great guy he was, and he was so charming, that he really fooled them all, or had he?? Had he once been genuine? She would probably never know, cause she had lost her trust in him, and would never believe what he said anyway, so what was the point in asking now?
Then at the age of 23 she got pregnant, she had hoped for it, she loved him, and wanted to see what a baby from all this love would look like, and they had a wonderful daughter, her life seemed complete.
She had found a "Soulmate", they finally moved in together, and were talking about marriage, what more could she ask for?
They were so broke, but did not bother her at all, she loved her daughter, her husband and her little life. She was happy to have a roof over her head, food on the table and all the necessities, and that was all she wanted. All the other stuff was just stuff, and not of great importance.

Then he got mad at her for the first time. She could not remember what it was about, but he got mad, he had never raised his voice at her before, she was almost amused, but it had been bothering her that she could never get any reaction when they had a disagreement, so it was a relief, to get some response now. Sometimes he would get angry and would just stop talking and start cleaning the house, and she learned fast, to take her daughter out for a walk, and leave him alone, and loved to come home and he had cleaned up and made everything nice, and she would not have to do anything for a few days, but this way everything got swept under the carpet, they didn't talk things through, or work things out, just started getting along again. Now it was almost impossible to talk things through, it would just start the argument up again, and not settle anything.

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When she met him, she had moved far away from her family, and had been a party girl, some may have called her an easy girl, but all she was looking for was love in all the wrong places, and there was plenty to go around of that, and she just didn't know any better.
The first night she met him, she had just moved in with one of her party friends, he and some of his friends had been driving around and were bored, so they came over to hang out. This was the first time she met him, she thought he was a little overweight, and had no romantic interest in him, but thought he was nice and friendly, so she started talking with him on the phone, he seemed different than all the other guys she had been around, treated her more like a lady, made her feel special and like he really cared for her.
The more she talked with him, and spent time with him, her feelings started growing fro him to, he was more and more handsome in her eyes, and she could feel the attraction getting stronger. One night he had rented her favorite movie "Lion King" they started watching the film, he started rubbing her feet, and soon he was kissing her, she knew she had found him.

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She didn't grow up with much love, had to fight for much of what she had, which had caused her some bitterness, anger, and poor choices in her early adulthood, but with her survivor instinct she had learned to accept herself and had worked through her self-loath, started loving herself, mostly for her kids sake, she knew she had to get all this anger and resentment out of her system in order to be a good and loving mother, and with her "Dear friend Oprah" help she had gotten far.
All this her emotional distanced husband had missed, cause he had not spent the time she had grown up to be since he had met her. She had not started the journey of self-improvement and loving herself until after they had gotten married, and he had just missed it all.
When they met, she had been 21, he was 33, and she fell for the warmth of his big hands, his deep voice, his honesty, and most of all his seemingly caring towards others, well he still cared for others but it seemed that his fuse towards her got shorter and shorter as they stayed together longer. If she had still been the 21 year old he had met, she would have happily eaten the crumbs that fell of the table when he ate, but the woman that she had grown up to be would never take this kind of shit from anyone.
How could he not realize this, why could he not see and appreciate what she had become? Why did she have to leave him for him to realize this? Didn't he know that he would never meet anyone like her again? Had he forgotten how much fun they still could have even after all these years together? Why would he want to risk to have to go all over again, miss seeing his children grow up, cause once she was gone it was the point of no return, that was a fact.

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For 10 months she had been waiting, and as she knew the time was getting nearer, the wait just got even more unbearable, yet the anticipation grew along with that, for she knew it was just around the corner. How had she gotten in this situation? How in the hell had she ended up with a man like this, and lastly what the hell was she thinking?
It had taken her 7 freaking years, two children and one on the way to figure this out, and yet she did not think of herself as a slow woman, well that was about to change now, no more stupid games, no more f..... lies, this was going to be a two way street.
All her pride was in how well the children looked, and behaved, if the house was clean, bills paid, husband happy (which was getting harder and harder to do) but who would ever come and take care of her when her energy was used up on everyone else? Where were the "Thank you's", when could she ever get a break?? Where was the balance??
Now she was going day by day, focusing on the children's wellbeing that would always be her utmost important pleasure in life, and only doing what she could, when she could, and not putting herself last.
"I am a mother, but I am also a woman" was the new mantra, and a damn good one. She used to be over 200 pounds but it had never really bothered her, she always had tought of herself as a good woman, honest person, and a caring friend, and that was the most important thing to her. Yes it would be frustrating when she tried on pants size 18 and they wouldn't fit, but hey, she still had a roof over her head, wonderful children, and awesome frindes, and before all this mess she had even thought that she had a husband that loved her, so the weight had not botered her that much, but after she lost it, and a size 8 was to big, she felt even better about herself, and yet keeping all her morals to the same level, which just gave her a even higher boost, then she had landed a job where her gifts were appreciated by at least some of her coworkers, and she had been able to develop some new once too. All this with out the support of her deadbeat husband. Everything she had accomplished so far had not been because of him, but inspite of him.
Well things are going to take a drastic turn, but because of her children she had to endure a few more months with this unberable man in her life everyday, and that she could bear for the wellbeing of her offspring, what would sustain her was the thought of her plan, that had been forming in her head, and the thought of her unborn child, which was a welcome distratction from the everyday having to look at her husband which just became more and more unattractive to her.
She had always loved to look at him, the hairs on his back had not been something she was worried about (even though she once had tried to use wax strips to pull them off, quite unsuccessfully though) the beerbelly had just been a soft spot, and it did not get in the way of her attraction to him, but ever since he had revealed his true self, she would become more and more discusted by the sight of him naked, there was nothing more appealing on him, when her son one day had blurted out that daddy had boops like mommy, she had to bite her lip real hard, to no to bust out laughing, cause that was what she had been thinking herself. She had to think to herself that is was just quite amazing how her view of him had changed, and how true the old saying "Love is blind" is.